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Map of the Couple.

A document about the relationship. What each of you brings, what you share, and what needs translating between you.

For · Couples at any stage of the relationship, with a real wish to read themselves together.

Written in English

I write your Map in English, and the interpretation session is held in English too.

What it is

A document about the relationship. What each of you brings from home, what you already share without noticing, and what needs translating on the way from one of you to the other.

The document reads both temperaments at once, and what happens in between, which is where the relationship lives. It does not come to say who is right, or whether the relationship should carry on.

Who this is for

  • Couples at any stage, who want to read themselves with more time than daily life gives them.
  • Anyone who has been having the same conversation for years and wants to understand where it comes from.
  • Anyone who wants to understand how the other person is made, without arguing about who is right.
  • Both of you, and not one of you. The document is written about the two of you, so it needs the agreement of both.

When it is better to wait, or to look elsewhere

  • If there is violence of any kind in the relationship, this is not the way. There is proper support for that, and I will help you get to it if you want.
  • If one of you does not want it, I do not go ahead. I do not write about someone who has not agreed to it.
  • If a separation is under way, even slowly, the document arrives at a bad moment. I would rather wait.
  • If you are in couples therapy right now, we talk first. A text from me, written without my speaking to whoever is working with you, gets in the way more than it helps.
  • If one of you is in crisis, that comes before everything else.

This is not couples therapy, or mediation, or a psychological assessment. It is a written document, for you to read. No diagnoses are made, and it does not replace clinical or therapeutic care. If that is what you need right now, the right path is to find a psychologist. If it seems to me that this is the case, I will say so plainly and, if you want, point you to someone.

If you are in crisis or at risk, do not wait for me: in Portugal, call SNS 24, 808 24 24 24, or 112.

If you are unsure, write to me first and we will see whether this is the moment. I would rather you waited than bought at the wrong moment. Write to marta@serpaciente.pt.

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What one of you calls distance, the other calls quiet. It is the same thing seen from two places.

this is how a Reminder Map sounds

What is included

  • · PDF document written about the two of you.
  • · Reminder Map, one A4 page with the essentials.
  • · Interpretation session (in the option with a session), to read it together before it is delivered.

The interpretation session (45 minutes to an hour) happens once the Map is written. I read it with you, explain what is there, and only then does the document go to you. It is optional: you can take the Map on its own for € 200.

Delivery is within a month. If you are in a hurry, write to me before ordering and we will see what is possible. The Map arrives digitally; if you would like it printed, I will send you a quote.

People who have been here

Thank you, from the heart, for my map. There were parts that moved me. Things I read and actually stopped to think about, and realised they are true.
S.The Maps

If you are unsure, ask me first. I am in no hurry at all.

This is not where that happens yet

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